The Hidden Struggles of Military Kids Starting School - And How We Can Make It Easier
Helping Military Children Settle into Their New School This September
While most kids are picking out pencil cases and prepping their uniforms, military children are preparing for something much bigger: yet another new school, unfamiliar faces, and the pressure of starting all over.
These kids move more often than most adults change jobs, and while they’re impressively resilient, they need more than a pat on the back. They need practical support, empathy, and understanding.
As September approaches, here are 6 powerful ways parents, teachers, and communities can make the transition easier, and make sure our military kids feel seen, supported, and strong from day one.
1. Prepare Before the First Day
A smooth transition begins well before your child walks through the school gates. If possible:
- Visit the school in advance, even if just virtually. Walk around, explore the website, or check out photos and videos to give your child a sense of what to expect.
- Talk about what’s familiar, not just what’s new. Reinforce routines and school similarities (e.g., uniforms, lunchtimes, subjects).
- Introduce key staff ahead of time, teachers, the pastoral team, or school support staff. Knowing a few friendly faces can ease anxiety.
2. Share Key Information With the School
Schools want to help, but they need to understand your child’s background. Share relevant information such as:
- Any recent deployments or family changes
- Social or emotional concerns
- Your child’s interests, strengths, and support needs
- Previous schooling (especially if abroad or in a different curriculum system)
Letting staff know that your child is from a military family can help them tailor support and monitor for signs of struggle.
3. Create a Sense of Belonging
Military children can feel like the “new kid” far too often. Schools can help by:
- Pairing them with a peer buddy or mentor
- Encouraging involvement in clubs or activities early on
- Celebrating diversity and unique experiences, including military life
- Providing safe spaces, like lunchtime clubs or quiet rooms, where children can take a break if feeling overwhelmed
4. Give Time to Adjust
Settling in takes time. Your child may be enthusiastic at first and then hit a dip once the novelty wears off. That’s normal.
- Keep communication open - ask how things are going, but don’t pressure them to be “fine” straight away.
- Keep in touch with teachers and ask for updates. Early intervention can prevent small worries from becoming big problems.
5. Celebrate Their Resilience
Military children bring a wealth of experience to the classroom. They’re often empathetic, adaptable, and mature beyond their years. Celebrate their resilience, and remind them of the strengths they’ve gained from their unique journey.
Consider creating a ‘Moving Memory Box’ or a scrapbook that captures old and new school memories, it helps acknowledge their past while making space for new beginnings.
6. Use Support Services
Whether your child is struggling emotionally or just needs a little extra encouragement, there is support available:
- Service Pupil Premium (England): Schools can access additional funding to support military-connected children.
- Little Troopers at School: Offers teacher resources and classroom activities focused on the military child experience.
- Local Armed Forces Champions or school liaison officers may be available through your local authority or garrison.
- SSAFA, RAF Families Federation, Naval Families Federation, or the Army Families Federation all offer guidance for families moving with children.